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Fears Women Have About Aging

Fears Women Have About Aging

"There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age." ~Sophia Loren

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We deal with changes all through life. But one of the scariest changes might very well be that we are getting old.

We start looking at the older woman in the mirror. We miss that younger woman that used to be looking back at us. She didn't have all those lines on her face. It's a bit depressing to realize this is our new reality. And then it hits us. We're getting older. And that is when the fear creeps in. Getting older brings a wide range of emotions for us to sort through.

Fears Women Have About Aging

The loss of our youthful looks is probably the first thing that impacts us. We don't lose our looks. It's that our looks have changed. And they have been changing since the day we were born. We are now at the age where our hair turns gray or maybe even white, and the texture of our hair changes. Our once-youthful skin is wrinkled and sags here and there.

We start buying more skin creams and makeup for the more mature woman. We may consider having our hair stylist color our gray hair. And those things are okay. Nothing wrong with doing something to slow down the effects or looks of our aging. But remember, we earned each one of those wrinkles and gray hairs.

The change in our bodies is many. I don't think there is any part of our bodies that don't suffer the consequences of getting old. Remember puberty? That was a massive change in our teens. Getting older brings some different changes.

One of the first things we may notice is our sagging drooping breasts. So off to buy better bras to hold up our once perky breasts. Seriously, this is when we need a good sense of humor. We may see the arrival of brown spots. I am sure none of us like them. Those brown spots on our hands scream old age. It might be worthwhile to check with a dermatologist for some treatment or try one of the over-the-counter products. But no matter what, we carry on.

And, of course, there are the stiff joints and the issues with our digestive system; we have lost a bit in the height department. The list goes on and on. And with the help of our doctor, we will adjust and keep going.

Failing memory is an issue that many older people deal with it. But remember that being a little forgetful happens to all of us sometimes, no matter our age. It's a normal part of aging. A notebook and pen can help you keep track of the things you don't want to forget.

Now, if someone is not taking care of themselves, forgetting to bathe or eat, that would be a reason for concern. Or if they seem confused about people and places. At that point, it's time to see a doctor.

Being alone is a massive change from the busy day-to-day life of raising a family and working a 9-5 job. Think about it. Being alone does not have to be a bad thing. You can have that extra cup of coffee in the morning; you can sleep a bit longer in the morning. You can read those books you have wanted to read. And now, you can have more time to socialize. Make those lunch or dinner plans, and see that movie. Now you can be as busy as you choose to be.

If you have a husband or partner, you may have a list of things you plan to do once retirement rolls around.

It would help if you kept in touch with family, friends, neighbors, whatever your plans. Take a class, volunteer, and join some clubs—no need to be alone unless that is what you prefer. I prefer a mixture of both.

Dying becomes something that many worry about when they realize that they are getting up there in years. It's inevitable. The best we can do is prolong it as long as possible. If you are focusing your time on your death, you will not truly live your best life. Sure, I think about dying. Do I want to die? No! As long as I am feeling good and able to do things, I refuse to spend time dwelling on my death. It's out of my hands. Instead, we should focus on what we can do to stay healthy and fit. We need to live it up while we have the time. Do a few things you never had time to do when you were busy with work and family.

The best way to handle all the fears is to change your whole perspective about the process. Instead of dreading getting older, why not embrace it? Remind yourself of how far you have come. Remind yourself of your accomplishments, family, and all the happy memories. Keep in mind there really is more to come. Yes, maybe our years are numbered; but that only means we need to be making the most of the years we have left. We don't want to sit around and mope about getting old and dying. That would be a total waste of our time. Just keep living is the goal.

Don't allow a few wrinkles and gray hair to get you down. How about giving yourself a bit of a new look? Change up your hair and makeup. Start each day in a way that will make you feel good about yourself. Put a bit of makeup on, and style that hair. Yes, even if you are not going anywhere. Just do it for yourself. Be ready for whatever the day may bring.

Jam to some good old rock n roll. Or whatever your favorite music might be. Life is still good.

Aging is not for sissies. But we are strong, motivated, and have a sense of humor. A strong sense of humor is what is needed to survive getting old.

We may be old, but we are not used up. We still have things to do, places to go, and things to learn.

Of course, people all age differently. Many have health issues or memory issues. Many can't live alone. Don't forget about those less fortunate when it comes to getting old. Spend time with them. Help them out. We can make a difference in their lives, which will enrich our lives.

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"Know that you are the perfect age. Each year is special and precious, for you shall only live it once. Be comfortable with growing older." ~Louise Hay

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Jan 26, 2023

I read you and think I hear myself talking and I agree with everything you say.

But its not what I think that's the problem, it's other people's take on us that is very telling. you have become a separate entity from the rest of the community. Your views are not valued and it feels like we are being punished for getting old?? I don't want that certain type of voice when you are talked to, that tutting because you are not fast enough at the checkout and the condescending remarks + the sheer intolerance. I am the same person...Just older.

I am not depressed nor anti social, I do all the things that I should do to keep myself…

Cheryl T
Cheryl T
Apr 12, 2023
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Basically, I may be old, but I don't want to treated like I am old and not capable of doing certain things.

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